Comments for Lost in Stockholm http://lostinstockholm.com Musings about Life in Socialist Sweden - Oh Yea, It's Awesome Mon, 21 May 2012 20:16:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on 8 Things You Should Never Say To Someone Who’s Grieving by Ravi http://lostinstockholm.com/2012/05/21/8-things-you-should-never-say-to-someone-whos-grieving/#comment-153336 Ravi Mon, 21 May 2012 20:16:11 +0000 http://lostinstockholm.com/?p=4011#comment-153336 Me no different. Just don't become a recluse. That's not you You are talking, walking, running and flying chirpy bird. Keep Flying. Me no different.
Just don’t become a recluse.
That’s not you
You are talking, walking, running and flying chirpy bird.
Keep Flying.

]]> Comment on 8 Things You Should Never Say To Someone Who’s Grieving by Megalagom http://lostinstockholm.com/2012/05/21/8-things-you-should-never-say-to-someone-whos-grieving/#comment-153209 Megalagom Mon, 21 May 2012 13:41:32 +0000 http://lostinstockholm.com/?p=4011#comment-153209 I think its more about following through and that actions speak louder than words. If you say something about helping or listening then reach out again and make it happen. Understand that its a process and that they will need to be checked up on again, not just the one "Sorry to hear" time, and never mentioned again. I think its more about following through and that actions speak louder than words. If you say something about helping or listening then reach out again and make it happen. Understand that its a process and that they will need to be checked up on again, not just the one “Sorry to hear” time, and never mentioned again.

]]> Comment on 8 Things You Should Never Say To Someone Who’s Grieving by Jasmine http://lostinstockholm.com/2012/05/21/8-things-you-should-never-say-to-someone-whos-grieving/#comment-153201 Jasmine Mon, 21 May 2012 12:47:34 +0000 http://lostinstockholm.com/?p=4011#comment-153201 My condolences to you and your family. My question is, what should we say then? My condolences to you and your family. My question is, what should we say then?

]]> Comment on when i miss my mom by Sunita Sangra http://lostinstockholm.com/2011/09/03/when-i-miss-my-mom/#comment-153175 Sunita Sangra Mon, 21 May 2012 11:13:56 +0000 http://lostinstockholm.com/?p=2680#comment-153175 Very sorry to hear of ur loss. I know how u feel. Mine passed away on her 58th b'day on 4th sept 2001. The thousand things she cud do still dazzle me, cooking, drawing, crocheting, knitting, crafting, teaching me and my sis languages she barely knew and keeping a warm happy home. Times I feel she is still guiding and is near. U will now b her image in all u do. She will always b by yr side in some diff way. The day mine passed away..my sis was coming to the hospital and just getting off a bus when she felt something like a hug and a wierd sensation of warmth and affection which slipped away suddenly after enveloping her. That was the exact moment she passed away. So trust me she still exists somewhere in another form Very sorry to hear of ur loss. I know how u feel. Mine passed away on her 58th b’day on 4th sept 2001. The thousand things she cud do still dazzle me, cooking, drawing, crocheting, knitting, crafting, teaching me and my sis languages she barely knew and keeping a warm happy home. Times I feel she is still guiding and is near. U will now b her image in all u do. She will always b by yr side in some diff way. The day mine passed away..my sis was coming to the hospital and just getting off a bus when she felt something like a hug and a wierd sensation of warmth and affection which slipped away suddenly after enveloping her. That was the exact moment she passed away. So trust me she still exists somewhere in another form

]]> Comment on 8 Things You Should Never Say To Someone Who’s Grieving by CaféOlé http://lostinstockholm.com/2012/05/21/8-things-you-should-never-say-to-someone-whos-grieving/#comment-153163 CaféOlé Mon, 21 May 2012 10:23:10 +0000 http://lostinstockholm.com/?p=4011#comment-153163 Last year my dad passed away. It was totally unexpected and I really couldn´t believe my dad had died, for months. Sometimes I thought I was living a dream, waiting to wake up. My mom is so depressed she doesn´t want to live anymore. My boyfriend tries to be supportive but I think he doesn´t know how to handle the situation. I have very close friends but I guess they don´t know how to behave. Anyway, even if I felt the way you describe in this post, now I don´t want to talk about it anymore: I think people don´t understand why I didn´t get over it since it´s more than a year from my dad´s passing. I get it: my grieving is only mine and I don´t want to bother anyone. And yes, I have said some of the statements of your list to people who were grieving in the past. I only understood how stupid they sound when it was me the one who was grieving! I don´t think there is anything I can say to make you feel better but anyway I´ll say to you what I keep repeting to myself: we won´t be sad forever; we will be happy again sometime. Last year my dad passed away. It was totally unexpected and I really couldn´t believe my dad had died, for months. Sometimes I thought I was living a dream, waiting to wake up.
My mom is so depressed she doesn´t want to live anymore. My boyfriend tries to be supportive but I think he doesn´t know how to handle the situation.
I have very close friends but I guess they don´t know how to behave.
Anyway, even if I felt the way you describe in this post, now I don´t want to talk about it anymore: I think people don´t understand why I didn´t get over it since it´s more than a year from my dad´s passing. I get it: my grieving is only mine and I don´t want to bother anyone.
And yes, I have said some of the statements of your list to people who were grieving in the past. I only understood how stupid they sound when it was me the one who was grieving!
I don´t think there is anything I can say to make you feel better but anyway I´ll say to you what I keep repeting to myself: we won´t be sad forever; we will be happy again sometime.

]]> Comment on 8 Things You Should Never Say To Someone Who’s Grieving by Mathieu http://lostinstockholm.com/2012/05/21/8-things-you-should-never-say-to-someone-whos-grieving/#comment-153150 Mathieu Mon, 21 May 2012 09:36:53 +0000 http://lostinstockholm.com/?p=4011#comment-153150 So in a nut shell, shrug and turn away... So in a nut shell, shrug and turn away…

]]> Comment on The New Questions on Swedish Dating by SleeplessInUSA http://lostinstockholm.com/2010/06/26/the-new-questions-on-swedish-dating/#comment-152310 SleeplessInUSA Fri, 18 May 2012 09:31:20 +0000 http://lostinstockholm.com/?p=1553#comment-152310 I absolutely LOVE this blog!! I, like others, tend to feel very at home reading all these comments, since I find myself in such similar situations with a Swede. I met a Swedish guy briefly during a vacation. Maybe I got "the look", or maybe it was just plain old eye contact, but eventually we ended up having drinks next to each other at the bar and talking. Nothing happened that night... in fact I remember thinking I thought it was odd that he was obviously wanting to talk, but didn't give off any kind of vibe that he was "interested" in me. He spent more time looking at the floor then directly at me and he was talkative, but not flirty. After that night, I didn't expect to hear from him again, but low and behold, he returned to Sweden and I started getting messages from him online. They were always very polite messages, mostly asking how I was doing. Then he started ending messages with "kram" (Which I am curious , btw, if that is just a friendly thing amongst the Swedes or reserved for more romantic purposes?). Now we talk every day, sometimes twice a day via email or Skype. He has mentioned wanting to come and visit, but no real set plans have been made. Sometimes I think to myself, why would a guy go through all the trouble to look me up online and stay in contact if he isn't interested? But then... The Swedish dating and culture is such a mystery to me, for all I know he could just be looking for an American pen pal LOL. Sometimes it's very flirty. Sometimes it's completely void of anything other than pleasantries. I keep telling myself that unless he actually books a ticket and is on his way here, then there's no point in thinking of it as anything but harmless flirting, but I feel that there is definitely something more and I don't understand why either of us would spend this much time skyping and/or messaging if there wasn't a mutual interest. I definitely feel the "hot and cold" that many have described and am wondering how direct I should be. Obviously my worry is that I will be too direct too soon and it may backfire. Thoughts? *Just another American Girl with a Swedish Crush trying to figure it out.* :) I absolutely LOVE this blog!! I, like others, tend to feel very at home reading all these comments, since I find myself in such similar situations with a Swede. I met a Swedish guy briefly during a vacation. Maybe I got “the look”, or maybe it was just plain old eye contact, but eventually we ended up having drinks next to each other at the bar and talking. Nothing happened that night… in fact I remember thinking I thought it was odd that he was obviously wanting to talk, but didn’t give off any kind of vibe that he was “interested” in me. He spent more time looking at the floor then directly at me and he was talkative, but not flirty.

After that night, I didn’t expect to hear from him again, but low and behold, he returned to Sweden and I started getting messages from him online. They were always very polite messages, mostly asking how I was doing. Then he started ending messages with “kram” (Which I am curious , btw, if that is just a friendly thing amongst the Swedes or reserved for more romantic purposes?). Now we talk every day, sometimes twice a day via email or Skype. He has mentioned wanting to come and visit, but no real set plans have been made. Sometimes I think to myself, why would a guy go through all the trouble to look me up online and stay in contact if he isn’t interested? But then… The Swedish dating and culture is such a mystery to me, for all I know he could just be looking for an American pen pal LOL. Sometimes it’s very flirty. Sometimes it’s completely void of anything other than pleasantries. I keep telling myself that unless he actually books a ticket and is on his way here, then there’s no point in thinking of it as anything but harmless flirting, but I feel that there is definitely something more and I don’t understand why either of us would spend this much time skyping and/or messaging if there wasn’t a mutual interest. I definitely feel the “hot and cold” that many have described and am wondering how direct I should be. Obviously my worry is that I will be too direct too soon and it may backfire. Thoughts?

*Just another American Girl with a Swedish Crush trying to figure it out.* :)

]]> Comment on Kristi Himmelsfärds Dag {Ascension Day} in Sweden by Daniel http://lostinstockholm.com/2012/05/16/kristi-himmelsfards-dag-ascension-day-in-sweden/#comment-151983 Daniel Thu, 17 May 2012 13:47:10 +0000 http://lostinstockholm.com/?p=4225#comment-151983 In your things I hate about Sweden-posts I believe you have left out one thing: The self-loathing Swedes. They are just as obnoxious, if not more, than the self-righteous and arrogant ones. Sweden is obviously not the epitome of human civilization, yet these people make it seem like it is the low point. It just makes them seem spoiled to me. In your things I hate about Sweden-posts I believe you have left out one thing: The self-loathing Swedes.
They are just as obnoxious, if not more, than the self-righteous and arrogant ones.
Sweden is obviously not the epitome of human civilization, yet these people make it seem like it is the low point. It just makes them seem spoiled to me.

]]> Comment on A Call to Bloggers in Sweden – Join the Lost in Sweden Moosletter! by Tiia http://lostinstockholm.com/2012/05/10/a-call-to-bloggers-in-sweden-join-the-lost-in-sweden-moosletter/#comment-151953 Tiia Thu, 17 May 2012 11:43:45 +0000 http://lostinstockholm.com/?p=4173#comment-151953 Hi, I was surfing around today and found your blog. I subscribed and I'm looking forward to the first newsletter! This is exciting :) I'm a Finnish girl, living in Stockholm (love it!). I'm blogging in Finnish with English summary. I hope that is enough as I have also noticed google translate is not working very well from Finnish to English... http://jippijayjei.blogspot.com Hi,

I was surfing around today and found your blog. I subscribed and I’m looking forward to the first newsletter! This is exciting :)

I’m a Finnish girl, living in Stockholm (love it!). I’m blogging in Finnish with English summary. I hope that is enough as I have also noticed google translate is not working very well from Finnish to English…

http://jippijayjei.blogspot.com

]]> Comment on A Call to Bloggers in Sweden – Join the Lost in Sweden Moosletter! by Chelsey http://lostinstockholm.com/2012/05/10/a-call-to-bloggers-in-sweden-join-the-lost-in-sweden-moosletter/#comment-151275 Chelsey Tue, 15 May 2012 10:19:22 +0000 http://lostinstockholm.com/?p=4173#comment-151275 I've got your button on my sidebar! Thanks for the invite to be a part of your moosletter! I’ve got your button on my sidebar! Thanks for the invite to be a part of your moosletter!

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