thanks for the reply, I thought he might not be completely over his ex, but the more I think about it, he might be just playing with me… :( You’re right, he probably just wants to sleep with me (and he made that as clear as it gets) and I fell for him completely… :( I still dont get him though – why did he bother writing to me in the first place (I was the one to give my email address to him, but didnt ask for his, and he was pretty quick to contact me), he’s the one suggesting a date in Venice, jacuzzi together after sightseeing, and much more after the jacuzzi, but goes completely cold after hearing that I cant travel anywhere due to health. Dont get me wrong, I told him that I would absolutely love that… I should probably move on… Serves me right for being so childish and naive:(

Thanks so much for responding! So we do make eye contact and I smile whenever we do, but he is just soooo shy and I can’t even tell if he’s interested – some days he seems more engaged and others he’s uber introverted. There aren’t a lot of opportunities to talk so it makes it hard to get to know him better which I definitely want to do. The problem is he’s shy, I’m shy (when it comes to guys) and I know he’s not going to initiate anything which is where I come in. I’m just afraid/don’t know what the next step should be.

You are exaggerating a bit much here. After reading what you have to say, I get the feeling that you base this out of what you have heard and not on any real experience of sweden and the people who live here. And about your niece, Im sure that she is a nice girl and all but really. A teenage girl wanting to get out and see the world? I mean no real job experience or anything that includes living on your own. might be funny to you but if you look around, you will see that most teenagers are like that.

And please tell me how a trendy 26 year old look like a douchebag.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but as a swedish guy. I would say that if he cant even say something small as a “I will miss you too” then it might not be the “one”. I mean If I would really like a girl and she would say something like that, then it would give me a huge amount of butterflies in my stomach hehe. I wouldt tell the whole world of course, but I would at the very least give the girl a similair answer in return.

And if it of any help, I am pretty shy too =P

Anyway, Sapphire, whats your blogspot url? I’d like to follow and see if I can come to understanding him more… btw, mine’s moonlightam.blogspot.com

Text messages is our thing lol. If you do not like them, then it is up to you to tell the guy that you dont like them. Our swedish girls likes texting and thus we text them, we treat any girlfriend from abroad the same. If you think his behaviour is ill treatment then perhaps you should takea minute or two and think about how you treat him because he might just think that what you do is ill treatment too. You are not unique, and you are not special, so if you cant accept something small as that without doing something about it yourself then it is not him that is at fault but you.

Seriously Im so damn sick of girls thinking themselves as princesses while they themselves have no damn idea on wtf they are doing and how it will effect the guy that they are dating.