Why Lost in Stockholm Exists… And Why I Write

6 Feb
2013

The most popular (or infamous) article on this site is the “10 Things I Hate About Sweden.” Somehow, people take it so personally that it mandates a comment filled with insults, hate, or name-calling directed to me. And they believe that this entire blog exists to hate on Sweden.

If that is the case, then I sure have some power!

Today, I find the hate comments amusing and pitiful. Before, I would feel bad when people would post a comment that *I* must be fat, ugly, stupid, ignorant, dumb and have no right to say such things because America is just as bad.

I don’t claim the US to be better on all fronts, on some issues, yes (shopping, customer service), but on many, no (health care costs, women’s rights). And yes, sometimes I have made comparisons that were perhaps unequal or not related to the topic at hand.

Many of you read these articles with such a fervour that you are drawn to a level of insanity that insulting others somehow rectifies the situation. Perhaps also you want to fuel the fire with name calling too. But we should all understand that pointing out others’ faults does not absolve your own faults.

I loved what one of the regular readers posted:

For all of those who take this post the wrong way.
Take a damn chill pill, this is meant mostly for laughs and fun while describing stereotypes. If you recognize yourself too much and feel a need to reply in a offensive nature then perhaps take a hint and change yourself instead of trying to defend something that does not really matter. For everyone else, that dont fit in, well be fun and interessting and fun and interessting people will find you. Swedish people are not hard to make friends with, its just that there is a certain procedure involved=D. Good luck.

//Björn

Thanks Björn!

I love this blog and I love *most* readers who come here. This is a place for you to feel at home, debate, drink a cup of coffee, learn something new, feel better, and go home. Some of you are in moments of angst and loneliness being in a foreign country; certainly I have felt burden of being a foreign housewife.

Some of you want some good laughs for a few rough weeks you had understanding Swedes in your office. The lack of selection of tissue paper and fitted sheets should make you laugh, not get angry.

And of course, for many of you, you are deciphering the secret code of Swedish men and women. It is a tundra out there, so keep your club tight to your chest.

There are unfortunately a few bad apples here. I have allowed a lot of comments, despite their aggressive, spiteful nature to be approved. I do not like censoring comments, but when someone believes insulting me betters this blog, he/she is not making this ecosystem a better place. Read the comment policy first, think before you type, and if you still want to be a douchebag and write something stupid, go ahead. I will not approve it, but I may keep it for the dumb comment hall of fame.

Same goes with sending me a hateful or stupid email. I will read it and possibly post it later for all to see your stupidity. Case in point, the blogger who said I copied her article about removing your shoes, who cc’ed her manager, and demanded I link to her piece. Who knew she owned the intellectual property to that idea!

Please don’t be an idiot and write me something snarky and conceited.

And if you really think I have copyrighted one of you ideas, then please do send me an email explaining the situation and I will do my best to rectify it, if it is reasonable.

All in all, I enjoy writing here and I hope to continue to blog. I have so many exciting pieces to write about, especially pretty travel articles in Sweden. Overall, read this blog with a pinch of salt and use it as your place for learning and growing.

Keep the love on for Sweden, despite her depressive winters and gloomy summers she is always a beauty.

Love to all you readers and supporters!
xoxo,
sapphire

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6 Responses to Why Lost in Stockholm Exists… And Why I Write

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lh

February 6th, 2013 at 00:46

Sapphire, thank you so much for taking the time to write this, and in general, this blog. It certainly entertained me all of last year while I was still in America and day dreaming about what my life would be like in the land of beautiful men (now that I’m here–wow, yes! every other guy in the tunnelbana is pretty hot! didnt expect that haha). But, seriously, thank you! Now that I have skimmed through some of your old posts, I can totally relate to what you wrote about, and wish I could have that extra writing talent to write a blog myself. As for now, I just direct my friends to your posts when I’m too lazy to explain/write myself :p hehe much love and good vibes your way!! <3 <3

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Magnus Bäck

February 6th, 2013 at 13:12

I find it interesting that you think customer service better in the US. That’s not necessarily my impression after having lived in the US for a year, but rather that the distribution of customer service quality is much greater than in Sweden. There are some really great places (The Container Store, CB2) and some really abysmal ones (CVS). Swedish customer service is more even, and no matter where you call you can always get advice and opinions since people aren’t scared about liability.

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J /*sparklingly

February 6th, 2013 at 17:00

As an American who may be moving to Sweden at some point in the future, your posts and your blog are invaluable to me! Thank you so much for being so real. It’s easy to glamorize life in Scandinavia, as we tend to do here, but it’s so very necessary to be honest about what life is like in other countries and I come to you (and your archives!) for a dose of reality.

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Sapphire

February 6th, 2013 at 19:40

@J /*sparklingly and @lh – thank you for the support and coming here. xoxo

@Magnus – I agree that the range of service in the US is greater than in Sweden. I’ve had great service at some CVS’s and others not, but yes, some of those brands can be on the lower end of the service scale.

I have had great (note, not stellar) service from Swedish stores/restaurants only a handful of times. Though from when I moved here five years ago to today, I see quality of service improving. When I first moved here, if I asked a question about color/size/availability I would get disdain and contempt from the sales clerk. Now, at least they try to do something. I do notice that the small boutiques have much better service level than a big block store (suppose that is the case in most environments).

But when I have issues with a store in Sweden, it usually escalates to a manager because I do not accept “tyvärr” as a solution from a sales clerk. That is something that drives me batters.

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Rachel

February 6th, 2013 at 22:49

I am a lurker, as I don’t have any opinions of note to submit but love reading this site. Please continue.

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Sthephany

February 16th, 2013 at 06:20

Hi Sapphire,

I actually really enjoy your blog, and found very very useful during my time in Sweden. I too, can sympathize with the “10 things I hate about Sweden” post, because that is the reality of the situation for many expats in Sweden.

I lived in Sweden for 18 months, and found that other expats loves every aspect of Swedish society, but coming form Canada, I tended to mostly find the “bad” things about Sweden since most of the “good” (healthcare, abundance of nature, safety, parental leave, vacation etc.) was available to me my entire life back in Canada. That said, we all have different points of views and our experiences are different. You’re just one the brave souls who is putting it out there and shedding light on the “not so perfect” vision of Sweden.

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