Swedish girls are everything what you fantasize about. They are tall, beautiful, blonde (although artificially blond dyed hair), busty, athletic, and strong. These viking women are the enigma wrapped in a conundrum because the men still haven’t figured them out.
If dating Swedish men was confusing enough, then dating Swedish women must be more so. I’m a girl, an American-Indian girl, and therefore am not Swedish. But I have a few Swedish girlfriends and they all have opinions of their fellow male counterparts. Some comments are downright ballsy. Swedish guys have done a good job of losing their balls over the years, part thanks to feminism, part thanks to super tight jeans that served as self castrating devices.
First off, if you are man, Swedish, French, American, British, you have to learn how to smooch and booze with those hot Swedish women. A lot of booze, it helps. Second, it seems that foreign men in Sweden have an advantage over the Swedish men. Be happy and use it wisely.
Blond beautiful Swedish women
Here’s what Swedish women think of Swedish men:
- Kinda shy – the men just watch you and wait forever before they will come speak to you.
- Difficult to figure out
- Snåla – a bit greedy and stingy, swedish men don’t invite girls out much
- Too dependent on alcohol – the boys drink to get drunk, and it’s very gross. If swedish men learned to drink for pleasure and not got wasted, it would be easier to have a conversation and think they are sexy. In Southern Europe, people drink wine, beer, alcohol with class. Up in Scandinavia, people drink like the end of the world is coming. Plus, drinking a glass of wine on a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday is akin to alcoholism, yet it’s okay to get wasted drunk from Thursday to Saturday. Where’s the moderation?
- No alcohol = no conversation, the Swedish boys have no ability to communicate without the clutch of alcohol
- Too emotionally distant and far away
What Swedish women LIKE/ WANT Swedish men to do:
- Be courteous – maybe open doors, pull out chairs, a little bit of chivalry is good
- If you invite someone for dinner, then you could at least pay for it!
- Buy a gift to show your affection; it’s nice to receive presents
- Have some balls and guts and speak to me! “Hi, what’s up” does not count. We want to talk about real stuff, not just the weather.
- Stop counting every krona spent at a meal, it’s embarrassing to decide who got what drink, what side dish, etc. Can’t we just split the bill like normal people?
- Be a man and stand up for what you want
After reading all these comments you must think, “damn, how do Swedish men and women mate and have lots of babies?” I wonder that too, and I’ll put the blame on the dark swedish winter and the bright swedish summer. You also must think that Swedish women hate their fellow men. It’s part true, more Swedish women are interested in foreign men than they are in other Swedes. Boredom, lack of balls, and overall disappointment are contributing factors.
What can you learn from this? Like I said, if you are male and not Swedish, you already have a leading position. If you have the ability to speak to girls without being a pussy and make good conversation, again, major brownie posts. And finally, if you have some gentlemanly qualities, the beautiful blond Swedish girls will be all over you.
As my friend put it: Swedish blond bombshells may be tough and viking-like on the outside, but they are still soft, delicate women on the inside. A Swedish woman deserves to be treated as such.
thx so much i really needed to hear this , Sweden listen to me i am back , i’m gonna be myself again, Michael’s coming, stretch your arms for me
@Michael – Do it! Go out and find those Swedish girls. Keep us posted on your adventures.
In a swimming hall’s shower room, Swedes act like peacocks. Showing their balls and everything. Such a shame that they can’t transfer that into their presence with women, LOL!
Wow, you’re full of bullshit.
swedish girls are so sexyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
now seriously, why some people are so obsessed about swede girls i’d never figure out, i mean to me it’s just absurd to be spending my time on how to get a cute girl .if you aren’t looking for a long term relationship though, that’s quite fine otherwise to get a relationship worked beauty is not enough.
she’s gorgeous ,but what else she got? does she have sense of humor or is she an uderstanding person or only cares about herself and…
so just take it easy. are you really gonna live your life like this?
Well spoken Sapphire, but I think there’s one way to even top the foreign man. “How?” I hear you ask. By finding a Swedish man who’s spent a lot of time abroad, thus learning about chivalry and grown a pair of balls. These men are simply as good as they get!
To begin with it’s awesome to be involved with someone foreign, but you know what? Down the line it just gets annoying and difficult, regardless of country they’re from. Nah, my advice is to find a “världsvan” Swedish bloke.
@smek – ahahahaha. and for the penis jokes, the swedes are terrified of sharing feelings. seems like middle school everyday, doesn’t it?
@michael – because people love blonds. and they go crazy when they see blond girls and of course swedes are more than willing to play into that.
@Emma – You’re totally right! That’s why to find a Swede, don’t look in Sweden. Swedes who lived abroad are centered and have balls.
Hello sapphire!
Why dont you take a look at the first post on my blog http://www.giorgiotales.blogspot.com/ ?
I have been working two weeks on that article going around Stockholm and I can tell you that I agree with you on many things but I think there’s somethimg tou are missing…
That makes me a lucky lady then, my swede is very well-travelled!
HAHAHA!??! Whats wrong with you guys? Im from sweden and Wtf! You can’t write what swedish girls like and how they are like. They are people like everybody else? They are induvidiuals! DAMN! And not all swedish girls look like that, HAHA! It’s few that do. When I wen’t to Canada and the United States i saw alot of far more beatufiul girls there then our pale white blond girls… boooring!
I married one over 10 years ago and I’ll love her till I die. 6′ Blonde hair and blue eyes. Great legs. Sweet personality. Best of all, she loves Jesus and we’ll see each other in Heaven when we die.
I want to meet young Swedish women who love American men!
Thanks, David
David – Join a Scandinavian club, you’ll definitely meet some beautiful girls.
I can’t imagine that i can’t find my self aswedish girl,here am i looking for one and the only one
Nice list of dos and donts there…would be helpful for my college years in Sweden ;)
Discrete dating site for those married , or in a relationship,
and looking for discreet married dating.
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so freaking accureate!!!!! good job!d
Anderson – Isn’t it kinda weird to have a site for married people looking for people … seems a bit unethical.
dee – glad to help out.
I’m looking for a nice American man to hook up with and hopefully have a future with. I find it soo hard to find some serious guys out there. I am Swedish and people find me beautiful and smart, but what do I do wrong>>
Hi Swedish girl, I am an Aussie bloke and I love Swedish women. I am nice to open doors for them and be courteous but also know what I want and don’t have any problems telling you what it is. So what do you think? Would you like to come down to Australia and I can look after you and take you to dinner? Email me back and let me know. Thanks. All the best. Michael.
Hey Swedish girl, I am an American male currently residing in Göteborg..moved here 6 years ago to be with what i thought at that time, a possible future parner. We were together for about 5 yrs, but things just wasn’t working out between us. Must be a culture thing.. I was born and raised in Hawaii, Oahu to be exact with a filipino-american background. I have been single now for almost a year and I found that finding that right Swedish tje to be with can be very difficult. I have dated a few through those online dating agencies they have here in Sweden, but almost all of them seem to be the complete opposite of me..by this I mean, it’s not fun to be with someone who totally are not into the things you are into.. e-mail me when you get a chance o HA DET!!
Leo i göteborg
I am a 6′2″, 200 lb, blonde haired, blue eyed American. I honestly am attracted to other blondes, but it seems they are always in relationships. I am at a disadvantage because there are so few on the east coast. I play rugby in CT and I’m healthy, but I will admit I too must listen more to this guys advice.
I don’t go up and talk to woman I think is the most beautiful, which I admit is cowardly. I’m great around guys but horrible around girls. Honestly the ones I knew who are great with girls either don’t revere them as much as I do (most likely my mistake) thus aren’t afraid or are gay/metrosexual and aren’t really interested in that way. It’s funny because once I do I have a conversation I have a great time.
I just think a man who thinks too much and doesn’t just do what he wants is doomed in dating ( WARNING This does not bode as well in business or in most other decision making positions, you won’t have a job and or be in debt). Ever been to a cold pool? You dip your toe and it’s horrible, easing in is an even experience. So jump right in my Swedish brothers, take a lesson from the impulsive. You come from a long line of great thinkers, lovers and (what made it all possible) warriors. Count when you need to count, think when you need to think fight when you need to fight (before you lose your chance forever). Fight for your ladies and they will love you for it.
You forgot one thing; if there’s anything a Swedish girl wants in a man, then its good looks. That’s why they usually settle with Swedish guys. Foreigners aren’t as attractive as Swedes (mostly) and we’re a shallow people.
Hahaha, I’m a swedish guy and I laughed SO hard when I read this :D
It’s a pity that most of it is true though :P especially the part about swedes drinking too much
This is kind of a chicken and egg argument. As a Canadian, I found Swedish women to be very aloof, unless they were drunk. In that case, they were content to be just another piece of ass. Amazing transition. And despite their air of superiority, most Swedish women will settle for pretty much anyone as a boyfriend. No self-respect at all. So, Swedish women… ‘Looks’ thumbs up! ‘EVERYTHING else’ thumbs down!
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Josefine – You’re right. I’ll add the good looks parts in.
Tom – I appreciate that you as a Swedish guy admit this is close to the truth. Thanks for writing about it on your blog too!
Nick – I have heard that complaint as well and now I’m starting to wonder if people are running into really young beautiful swedish girls. Because I can’t tell the age gap for many girls and they may be younger than they look, hence the low-settle.
I must say one thing though, being a foreigner in almost any country makes you popular with the girls. It must be the whole exotic thing or something but being from another country seems to do half the work for you. I dont see how any guy traveling to sweden havent already noticed this to be honest hehe.
I´m not very fond of the fact that you as an american women think you can come in here and rant about what you “know” swedish women want and how worthless and unmanly swedish men are. In the end it means you´re calling ME a little bitch and i can´t tolerate that. So come here and say that to my face you fat, fundamentalist, piece of shit american. (see stereotyping is stupid.
Björn, yes I agree, we all love exotic.
Anton- If you would like to insult people and call them names, go elsewhere. We do not need your shitty attitude here.
I want to apologize to you Sapphire for being rude, i read some of your other posts and came to the conclusion that you were not as bad as i first thought. I just got angry and had to blow off steam.
@Björn
Very interesting information here. I can’t say anything about swedish girls because I don’t know any. But the exotic factor that you mention is true. In my country I’m just average and a lot of guys here love blond girls. But in other places (even other latin countries as well) I get hit on. But that happens more with white guys.
I’ve never asked anyone this question because it’s quite dumb but, what is it? What makes “white” guys (no intention to look racist here) like latin women? I’m not saying it is a general thing, because I realize many don’t like latin features and vice-versa (n my case, my skin is not as dark as some wouldd expect but my hair is). But there seems to be a “fascination” for latin women, at least that’s what I’ve seen from quite a number of white men. Is it the looks? the culture? the language? the dancing? the fact that we are a little more… “submissive” lol?
This question is also open to others too =)
Suck me!!!.I like you all
@Latina girl
Most likely that it is a mix of everything you mentioned. For me,I would say that I like the tanned skin and the dark hair. And I find it very pleasant to watch a latin woman dance=p. Which reminds me, I should take some salsa classes hehe. I wouldt be surprised if alot of guys find the language/accent very sexy aswell. Id say culture is a given since it will come along with the woman.
@Björn
Ok, thanks for your comment. It’s probably the same reason of why we find scandinavian guys attractive as well, a mix of things such as looks, coyness, accent, politeness, straihgt forwardness, literacy, good humor, etc.
P.S. Yeah, you should definitely take some salsa classes, when a man can (or at least tries to) dance… =P
@ Latina girl
“P.S. Yeah, you should definitely take some salsa classes, when a man can (or at least tries to) dance… =P”
Yeah it seems like alot of fun, had this latina friend who always said that I should learn but she never wanted to show me, she always said that her boyfriend will teach me, but I wouldt feel comfortable in a dance like salsa with another man lol. So I never learned.
@Björn
Yeah, I agree, it is pretty uncomfortable. Maybe she just wanted to respect her boyfriend as some men could get jealous if they see their girl teaching another guy how to dance. But if you still want to learn, I’ve found some good dancing classes on youtube, just type “how to dance salsa”. And the good thing is that if you are kind of shy of looking like a fool, this is a good way to learn. And also you can repeat it over and over until you get it!
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@ Latina girl
There are some salsa places in stockholm that Ive been to, there are mostly hispanic people there, in fact, so many that everytime Ive been there that everyone just assume that I speak spanish. My first idea was to just go there and ask a girl to ask me to teach me lol. I always figured that the best way to learn something is to just do it. But everyone at those places are just there to dance salsa and are great at it. So I kinnda feel out of place. How would you as a latina girl react if someone asked you to teach them to dance in a salsa club?
@Björn
Honestly that is the best way to do it. I would be happy if the guy asked me because it is not in our culture to make the first move whether to be someone’s friend or more. And she would probably feel great because if she lives in Sweden she’s probably struggling with the language and might feel frustrated at times, so being able to teach something that she likes and is good at will have a good positive reaction in her. Plus we love it when we see a guy making an effort at dancing =)
If she doesn’t know swedsih you can say: Hola, me podrías enseñar a bailar?
@ Latina girl
That sounds very good, Im not shy to ask but I dont want to appear like a hopeless case either. I dont want to make it look like Im trying to pick up the girl however, Im already have someone that I am interessting in. So if I asked a latin girl to teach me how to dance salsa, would she see it as a way to pick her up?, or just as something fun?. Is there a way to tell her in spanish in a nice way to say that I just want to be friends with her?. And I will memorize that spanish line you gave me. Currently I only know how to order beer in spanish =P.
Björn, out of curiosity, are you at all attracted to this Spanish girl? If not at all, then do mention that you would love her to teach you salsa but you’re not doing it to hit on her.
Then again, if she thinks you’re good looking, she’ll interpret it in the opposite way and over-analyze. Because, Latin girls, American girls, Swedish girls ALL love to think too much.
@Björn
I have to agree with Sapphire about girls over-analyzing everything. Some would see it as something fun and others as something more. But with your attitude and words you can let her know that you are not interested in her that way. After you say the first line you can say “solo como amigos, si?” and then you smile friendly (not flirty hehe) If it is a group of girls then you can extend the invitation to all of them by saying “hola, me PODRÍAN enseñar a bailar?” instead of “podrías”. There is a big posibility that at least one will volunteer and then you say the second line. That way she won’t be thinking: “oh, he asked ME, that’s got to mean something” but “poor guy, he seems nice, let’s help him”. I know, the “poor guy” thing doesn’t sound so good sometimes but that’s what they will think, however they will be sympathetic and friendly.
@Björn
P.S. Why doesn’t it surprise me? “Currently I only know how to order beer in spanish =P” haha =) Actually that is a phrase people should memorize in every language ;)
i have read your post and think its very interesting. I am Irish and have a swedish Girlfriend. i think the fat that i have that so called ‘irish charm’ really helped! but having been in sweden a few times, i notice the swedish guys, in general, are really nice and down to earth! unlike UK guys. i dont see any agression or fights and everyone seems chilled out!i dont know why swedish women love foreign guys, its true in part, but swedish guys are noce too. i do know quite a few
stephen
“Swedish women are interested in foreign men than they are in other Swedes”
How fucking disgusting. Also the “no balls part”. Fucking pathetic. Makes me rage. They want feminism, they don’t want men-men, that’s opressive, oh noo, they want to be like men, have all the privileges, they want to be fucking bitches, but still want guys to pull out the chair for them?
Well fuck you.
I want a serious relationship with a swedish girl. My detials are . age 22, Nepal. Now I am in Sweden, malmo studying here in Malmo Hoskola. Please you can meet me in my address. i.e meetsumanbaral@yahoo.com
Yeah I agree with you abc, the general opinion among the politic elite and feminists are that swedish men who act like men are macho pigs that probably beat their wifes and would rape any girl if given the opportunity. On the other hand the same women complain about swedish men being feminine (including or dear sapphire) and therefore choose to date middleastern or african men.I am one of many swedish men who choose to stay a man and therefore stereotyped from both sides,as a macho pig and and a pussy. Very frustrating
Hi I live in New York and would love to meet a Swedish woman. Any ideas how I can do this? Are there any Swedish dating services or sites that you can tell me about? Thanks.
Mark
Well why wait, here is my address? If there are any beautiful Swedish girls out there that would like to meet a charming, polite, educated, bold and exciting American please email me at newyorkfashiondesigner@yahoo.com
Cheers, Mark.
hello charming girl my great dream to live with a sweden girl in gear love for ever my msn is y_ahya09@hotmail.com
Seriously, I read your blog and think you have some good points but this is just not true.
I am as swedish as we get and I do not want my guys to buy me things and pay for dinner. That makes me feel like I owe them something, which is very uncomfortable if you try to date someone. Yes I do enjoy getting a beer payd for now and again, but the next round he better let me pay.
And yes, some chivlary is nice but not too much, if a man try to pull out my chair it makes me laugh, do hold the door up, but next time when I walk thrpugh the door first, let me hold it up to him. It’s all about equality, even in the little things. If the guy pays everyr bill and open all the doors he will make me feel like he looks down on me. As far as the alcohol coles I agree it’s a pity swedish guys need to be drunk to hit on people, (for the most part) but to be honest, it goes for us swedish girls aswell, and probably boils down to the fact that we mostly interract with others out at clubs and bars.
This was a bad list, you could have done something much better!
@Swedish S – Appreciate your honestly. I spoke to as many Swedish girls (girlfriends) that I could find and ask them about dating in Sweden. Most agreed with this list though of course, this does not apply to everyone.
What I’m really curious though, is why everything has to be so equal in Sweden? Why is being equal on even the little things matter so much?
And also, what do you want Swedish men to do that they’re not doing when you meet them at bars/clubs/parties??
@ Swedish S
I agree, most girls here do get almost angry if you treat them as if they are a lesser being, with that I mean paying for everything, holding up doors even if its not needed, pulling out chairs etc. To me as a swedish guy it almost feels like doing all that, it means that one would think that women are not capable of doing that themselves.
@ Sapphire
Speaking as a guy, I do think swedish women want everything to be equal, I mean what womwn wouldt want it?. But I think women here appreciate it more if you treat them to things that really matter, like maybe taking them to a trip to some tropical island on your treat. A swedish woman could afford going on her own, but if her man buys the whole trip himself it really means that he wants to spend a very romantic vacation with her and only her. I beleive that is something that swedish women appreciate a lot more than holding up some door as if she was 95 years old and could not do it on her own.
Hmmmm… Well, I’m not swedish, but I like to be equal with my man in the cases mentioned as well, though maybe independent would be a better word for it. Agree with Swedish S – if a guy wants to pay for dinner, drinks or similar, it does feel like I owe him something and start to wonder what does he want in return. The only exception would be if we’d agree that he pays this time and I’ll pay the next time.
However, I would expect my man to be manly enough to help me carry some of my shopping if I’m struggling and so on and I’d like him to be able to stand up not only for himself, but for me as well. After all I do want protection – emotional as well as physical, cause behind my “can-do-it-all-myself” appearance there’s still a delicate woman, we all need some reassurance from time to time.
With my previous relationship it was all other way round though – I had to “wear the trousers” in the old-fashioned way – pay the rent, all the bills, dining out and “lending” him money which I never saw back and even assembling all pieces of furniture which I bought and dragged back home by myself from ikea or argos from about 10 miles away… If there was a problem in the household – it was quickly becoming solely my problem. So, – never again:))) if it will be anything but equal in all departments with any guy in the future – a guy will be as good as dumped for all I’m concerned.
Hi,
I am not swedish, however I am in sweden.
Looking for a date with swedish female is a dream for me, since I am brown in color….this is not my perception, but others feel so.
I just want to tell that for above topic, females do expect something from their man and which is OK as per me. Holding shopping bags, paying some bills, protecting the female is man’s job and there should not be question of equality in it. Has any female ever asked to carry a baby in man’s body for 9 month….
sorry guys, i am a male too, however I agree to Moonlight.
Any comments welcome and also any female for date in stockholm is welcome. I stay near Central stockholm.
Wow wow wow!! This is all a little strange for me! Coming from a different culture I can’t really understand this equality thing. To me, that’s not the definition of equality. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I do think that we are all human beens that deserve love and respect and no gender is more important than the other in any sense. But I realize that men and women are not the same. If I thought that, I would be a lesbian. It is the differences between us what makes me love men. Female friends… I have plenty. So I’m not looking for a man who acts like a girl. Sure we all can pretty much do the same things (except carrying babies hehe). But I believe that men are more capable for certain tasks and women for other tasks. We are a good match, a compliment of each other. In my mind it by no means signifies that there’s a better gender. And in my “town” all my male friends pay for the stuff. Like, if a group of us goes to have dinner, the guys pay for the bill. They would consider themselves jerks if they didn’t. As a woman, I like when men do that unless I know they’re having a hard time making a living. As a rule, I always offer to pay for myself, but they sometimes even get offended for not being considered real gentlemen.
Equality to me means that no one is better than the other. That I get the love and respect I deserve and they get the same from me. We ARE different. I don’t think we should strive to be the same. In my opinion, it’s a natural thing for a man to want to protect a girl and for a woman to be protected. I think it’s the bad treatment from some men what made women want to “fight” against that instinct, as under those circumstances it was seen as something negative.
Anyways, that’s just my personal opinion. However I’m openminded with my swedish friend and DO NOT expect him to pay for things because I know he IS a gentleman in many other aspects. He is just fine the way he is and culture shouldn’t be an obstacle.
As an American woman who has a lot of Swedish male friends–and spent some time over there–I really love the fact that things like the money situation in a date setting are seen that way. I never did get why one person (namely the man) is always expected to fork out the cash. If I have it on me, cool beans. If I don’t and he does–fine, but I’ll feel more comfortable covering it next time.
Some of the things I don’t get as much I’m at least learning to expect/understand based off the interactions with my friends. I’d say the silence thing is still what I’m getting used to.
You guys go way to deep into th subject. I was just thinking about going to sweden to see if the women are still women. Not like America, where all the women are pretty much men. I’m tired of dating girls with smug f’ing attitudes. American women have nothing to offer besides their vagina but the worst by far are the Korean women. Don’t ever date one! *WOMEN* don’t ever forget that a guy does not want to be business partners with you. A man wants a relationship that’s normal! Try to revert back to the 1940s or 50s. what did women do? Cook, Clean and take care of the children. Some woman with a dick had to go and screw that up for the rest of us. Thanks a lot America now I have to go overseas to try and find a suitable wife!
hi everybody,im guy who likes blondes,welljust x the outside,ighuees,ihad meet many swedish n ithink they r not friendly open people ,as somewere i had read ,ibeen travel lot n everywere they just are open with another sweedish people,they r sure that they r best in the world n they r more than anybody,they r to proud to be swedish ,is to much,that this just make me take swedish to the bed n dont think morte than this,ill never take a swedish seriuosly.if u really know sewedish people as i do u ll figure out.
@Kirran
cook, clean and take care of the children – is that what you think a woman should do????:))) Sit at home and listen to some “husband” moaning that I spent too much money on food/clothes/etc, when I can go and earn my own money and spend it on whatever I like???? And why, in your opinion, should a man be obliged with supporting the whole family? How many men are there on the whole planet who would earn enough to support the whole family? You’re a bit behind with times, I think:)))
“A man wants a relationship that’s normal!” – Whats your definition of “normal”?
@Kirran
Please, please don’t come to the UK cos we’ve got enough idiotic men and don’t need another. Has the feminist movement completely passed you by??! Are you a caveman in disguise? Perhaps the reason you’ve not got a wife is your rather backward attitude to the fairer sex. A partner should be your equal not your subordinate.
@moonlight
agree totally – go girlfriend!
@Kirran
Heck, why are you even looking at Sweden then? Because that sure as heck doesn’t describe a Swedish female…
@Kirran
You are delusional. A woman is not a substitute bed and a personal servant/chef with a built in kindergarten.
@Martin
No real idea what your on about to be honest. The way you type and how you talk about that you will only sleep with swedish women and never think of them again suggests that you are very immature. Maybe that is your problem.
Now….
Personally, I think Swedes have the right idea. “Feminism” in america is complete utter nonsense. They don’t want to be equals.. in America (almost) every woman wants to be a goddess and doted on hand and foot. You won’t get a date if you aren’t paying for them. It is almost required. (There are always a few exceptions… but this is from quite a few years of partying, and dating experience here) If a woman wants to be equal.. then they should be equal… in ALL aspects. Now… that doesn’t have to take away gentleman things. Not all gentlemen type things have to be about equality. I’m slightly frustrated lately, as All my life I’ve been trying to change myself to fit the “all american guy”… when all I have to do, is move to Sweden! Chivalry isn’t about making someone less then you, it is showing appreciation for the company of people you enjoy being around. To me at least.
@Björn
Hey! how do you do?
I have a question for you. If you were in Venezuela, adapting to the culture and all of that… what would you be looking for in a woman? Someone that is completely exotic, very latin in culture and that speaks limited english, someone that looks a little exotic according to where you come from but not as much, openminded with culture and speaks fluent english, or someone that is closer to your culture like blonde, and native english speaker??
@Bjorn
I find your last comments eminently sensible – hurrah Sir!
@Latina girl
Heya! I cant complain, how about you? =)
Thats easy, I would definatly go for the latin woman that is open minded with culture and fluent in english.
Because I have a thing for latin women so less exotic or not does not bother me in the least. The major reasons for my choice is that she is open minded about culture and speaks english well. It makes it so much easier to get to know her and understand her. Without that it would be hard to aim for a serious and long lasting relationship.
@Princess
Thanks=). Cant beleive that some people still think of women like that or even want women to be like that. To me, that line of thought is like considering women to be cattle or something. Pretty much the same idiocy as racism.
@Bjorn
Hmm yes and have you noticed @Kirran’s gone a little quiet…
Stupidity I think is the worst thing in the world but it’s rampant! No cure at all…the cursse of humanity.
@Bjorn
=))))
Ok, that makes me feel better. Sometimes I think I have the feeling that I am too latina for some and not exotic enough for others, so I feel like I can’t please anyone. But I’ve always thought that one should be real, and if that’s what I am, well… that’s what i am!
Thanks for your time. I always count on you and your blunt answers =)
good article, just moved to stockholm from london and loving it! even better now i have discovered this website – now i have “inside info”. keep up the good work
@Latina girl
Happy to be here for you =D
I just have 2 questions. First of all. Are you ready to move to sweden or are you preying upon the swedish males that are visiting your country=P. Are you ready to move abroad if you find the ONE guy?. If you are ready to move abroad then things might be easier if you are hellbent on meeting a swedish guy. Because otherwise you would have to find someone online that is willing to move to venezuela, it is a big step for either of you.
If you are ready to move to sweden then I recomend this dating site http://www.motesplatsen.se it is a serious dating site and I hear from my work mates that everyone of their friends that have used it has found someone. Not sure if it has an english section but If necessery, I can help with translation =)
Question 2! From what you have learned about swedish males so far, what would be the biggest mistake for a swedish guy to make when going for a latin woman?.
@Björn
Answer 1: I do not have plans to move abroad for now. I’m just trying to figure out the swedish guys over here. For some reason i think that swedish guys are worth the effort. If I find THE ONE I would absolutely move if necessary. I’m very determined. I’m not interested in meeting guys online. Face to face is complicated enough =) But thank you for offering your help!
Answer 2: That’s a good question. i would say that the biggest mistake for a swedish man when going for a latin woman is not making clear movements. It confuses us. We don’t know if they are into us or not. A big mistake is also expecting the woman to take the initiative. Unless she is openminded and cares enough for the guy, she won’t do it. Or she might do it for a while, but if things are progressing very slow and there’s no big response from the guy, she will move on. And not being informed of what a latin “gentleman” is could be a mistake. I know for a fact that Swedish guys are very polite, but a latin man shows politeness in different ways. So, the girl might think that swedish politeness is actually rudeness. Just some information about it would do it. Lack of chivalry is basically the mistake. It’s not exactly the things swedish men do, but the things they DON’T do.
Sorry if I couldn’t come up with only one big mistake. But my only intention is to help =)
Now that we are talking about mistakes, the obvious question from me is the same: From what you have learned about latin women so far, what would be the biggest mistake for a latin woman to make when going for a swedish man?
I am a Swedish guy, and i’ve dated alot of Swedish girls.
I don’t behave like the ordinary Swedish guy at all.
And im so sick and tired of their feminism attitude, guys don’t date a Swedish girl, they’re mostly terrible in bed and want to be threated as a princess all the time.
Im currently dating girls from Russia, and former soviet countries.
Belive me, i’ve done it all. I wouldn’t trade 1 Russian girl for 10 Swedish ones. If you dont belive me, Welcome and get bored.
I don’t give a f*** about these shallow girls anymore.
You wonder why we have 55 % divorce rate in Sweden?
Just google it.
@latina girl
I fully understand your point and your draw to swedish males. It is the same for me. I really love latin women for example. Sexy, curves at the right places and all that. Not to mention those big brown eyes and that firm but reasonable attidude towards men, and that dark hair. So even if its based on different things, I can really understand =D. I hope you find your guy and even if he is shy about certain things, I can only recomend that you should not be. Lol =))
About latin women, how do I show that I am interssted in a serious way?. As in Im not looking for a one night stand but something serious. Is there some way that is more or less a standard way to show it throughout south america and southern europe?. I am very blunt, even by swedish standards, what kind of bluntness would a latin girl expect? and how much would be too much?.
@Björn
Well, since I don’t fully know what the swedish dating procedure is, all i can do is explain what the latin one is more or less. Latin America is quite big and some rules probably don’t apply in every country. But this is the general idea of dating:
1) A latin woman meets a guy. He is charming, funny and makes her feel at ease. They talk.
2) Depending on the circumstances he might ask for her phone number right before they say good bye. They shake hands and kiss on the chick to say good bye.
3) After a few days, no more than a week he calls her. SMS are ok too. It’s just to let her know that he still remembers her and to make sure she doesn’t forget him either.
4) He calls or SMS her again to arrange to meet. It could be a group date or just the 2 of them, depending on her and his personality. It’s preferable something casual to break the ice. Coffee or outdoors is good.
5) He arrives on time at the place or he might arrange to pick her up. Sadly but surely she will either be a little late or not be ready yet when being picked up. That’s ok. It means she spent time grooming and enhancing her beauty for him, although her appearence might look the same for the guy =D
6) He treats her like a lady, opening the door for her, pulling the chair, etc. Random compliments are very good. They talk about everything and HE pays for the girl. Maybe they talk about when or where to meet up again.
7) If the guy takes her home, even though he might not have picked her up means extra point for him =)
8) Depending on the particular guy and girl, they get that going for a little while (calling, e-mailing, SMS ing and going out) It is to develop an attachment and a friendship before moving forward. Kisses on the chick are still going.
9) Up to this point they are NOT boyfriend and girlfriend yet. When he feels that she is ready, he will ask: Would you like to be my girlfriend? She might immediately say yes or she could ask for a few days to think about it. In most cases it doesn’t mean that she will say no. She had already thought about that way before he asked. She only wants to do it so she doesn’t come across as desperate.
10) When she say “yes” then they are officially dating. Real kisses are acceptable now. He won’t pressure her to have intimacy.
11) After some time she is going to want him to meet her family. Family is very important. Some families are very nosy, but it’s up to her to let them intervene or not. If she is a good girl she won’t let them. Just make sure you get along with them and you’ll do fine.
I know it seems very strange to you all of this. But that is the right approach if you want a serious relationship with a latina. If she wants to get “closer” at an early stage it means she is not worth it. Latinas are taught high moral values, so if she doesn’t respect that… it is extremely negative. It might be normal for other cultures but down here is not acceptable. That would make her an easy girl and she would probably cheat on him easily.
If you can find the right one you won’t regret it. She will make you feel that you are a king. Breakfast in bed, small details here and there, defend you over everything, putting you in first place when it comes to choose between you and work, etc.
For those who are from a different culture, that type of an attitude could seem as fake, forced by the males, stupidly submissive, pushover, etc. For a few ones that could be the case, I’m not going to lie. But for most of us it’s only an expression of true love. We dream with finding the right guy to be able to do this with. We are hopelessly romantic. So, do not take it the wrong way =)
Keep in touch. I’m happy to be able to pay you back and help=)))
Have a fantastic day!
@Latina girl
Allthose procedures in themselves does not seem too bad to be honest. Except for the real kissing part that does not happen untill its official. I have a soft spot for kissing and if I meet a girl that I am not atleast allowed to kiss then I always figure that she is not interessted in me. It is a big contrast to what I am used to. Over here it is like this, you meet, you have sex. And if you like each other you keep on meeting. But it is good to know that things can be slow. In a way it can be alot better because you will really get to know the person before anything serious starts. I will keep all of this in mind =D.
Thanks for taking the time to write down all these answers, ill be sure to remember them =D
@At swedish girls sucks
Atleast meet a swedish woman in real life before spouting your nonsense.
@Bjorn & Latinagirl…you two really need to get a room! Or at least swap email addy’s :P
I think the Swedish guys are taking all this rather well considering,lol.
If this was about the uselessness of American or Brit men then this would be 10 pages of the most terrible swearing you’ve ever seen,and 15 pages all about..”ya’ll are faggots n bitches! Gimme yo goddamn address,i’ll come bitchslap you punk ass!” And probably worse.(add copious amounts of really bad spelling.)
I love all that internet macho crap lol. “bring yo punk ass to LA bro and i’ll beat you to a pulp!”…”bring yo punk ass to Detroit and i’ll beat you,shoot you and rape yo dog!”
“Umm ok..just let me book flights and pay a fortune so you can beat me up.NOT!…You want to beat me up then you’ll be getting all the fun,so you fucking pay and do all the travelling to come to me!”
“Machismo”…love it! :)
But i digress sorry.Maybe this is where (the average) swedish men go wrong? Stand up for yourselves.You’re ex vikings for gods sake! Find some balls…literally!
Just don’t respond like Americans and Brit’s would.Just say “no” to fantasy internet violence! :)
@Swedish Girls Sucks
Are you a Swedish male? Would you ever want somebody generalizing your mom or sister? No matter where you go in this world, there are people with good or bad behavior. That is the truth. Do you think all women from former Soviet nations have the best intentions for you? It is all individual, don’t you think? Ask yourself first, are you giving women the kind of relationships they are looking for? We must look within first, before critizing others. ;)
@Dano
Are you getting ready for a Rap Music convention? lol Good gracious, you are making Snoop Dogg look like Prince Charles :P Hhmm…American men..trying to think if I know many who talk like that. Just like that one old lady said, “T.V. rots your brains!” HAHA I have seen the worst American entertainment exports overseas, and I simply say, “Damnit, why? Hmmm..did they ever show that in America? Thank goodness they didn’t.” Unfortunately, the rest of the world is subjected to “B” films and horrible music. I think that is truly America’s best weapon on terror, but it’s just my opinion. :D
@Latina girl & Bjorn
You two give great advice to each other. That is what communication is all about! ;)
@Deepsoul…Oh trust me on this one my friend..I spent 6 years in yahoo chat rooms and 2 more blogging,and freely admit to being an antagonist lol.I’ve had internet fights with Americans that even snoop wouldn’t be able to understand!!
I don’t make this stuff up mate..they’re out there,and a damn lot of them too! :)
@Björn
I have a question for you (another one lol). My swedish friend has been ignoring me. For example, I’m with a group of friends just having a good time and he walks by but doesn’t even turn to see me. Then after a couple of hrs he comes again but doesn’t go straight to me, not even looks at me. He says hi to others and starts talking to them, then moves to another little group of friends and does the same thing. It’s like he doesn’t want people to know that we are friends or that he even remembers me. Finally, after saying hi to EVERYONE, he makes eye contact and comes to say hi to me. He has done that on different occasions as well. To me, that particular one I’m telling you about was like if he wanted me to approach him, but I didn’t. So later, he finally takes some courage and comes, but it was difficult for him because i wasn’t alone. But he always does that, he gives me attention and then ignores me. He wants me to play the cat or something. I wanna be the mouse, not the cat. So now i decided that i’m not going to do anything, i’m not going to take the initiative, nothing. I’m just gonna respond to whatever he does. But i’m almost sure that he won’t do anything. There are more things involved, but that kinda sums it up. What do you think????
prejudices.. I think that it’s kind of true that we are generaly more beautiful, but all those demands? All swedish guys are not like that, some maby, but some ways “foreign” guys are sometimes is not very nice -like we would go all the way in one night- we are not that slutty. And all girls are not blonde, we have a lot of different haircolors, it mey be so that we have some kind of blonde orginal color..
swedish girls are very unsure of them self, we are very fixated with how we look and with our weight
@Björn
By the way, I know it looks like I just have a crush on him because he doesn’t even know that I exist but it is not true. We have the best time together, chat, email, etc. But that’s just when we are alone or just a few people. Although he can also ignore me trough email and msn. Not on sms.
I don’t know if his ignoring me means that he is busy (doubt it), playing a confusing game, or shyness.
@Dano
Pretty much everything on that list is exaggerated. If there is any swedish male that has all those flaws, it wont be because he is swedish, it would be because he is mentally disturbed lol. Some guy here and there could have 1 or 2 of them, but every guy I know and talk to at work/parties/whatever would pretty much laugh their asses off if they heard about any guy, swedish or otherwise who would act like that list describes.
I dont feel the need to stand up for myself, this blog and all these women wanting to know how to find a swedish man, and those that have said so many nice things about my country men =). It should be proof enough that swedish males are not quite so bad as that list would have you beleive.
We drink alot, but that is something we enjoy. But we most certainly are capable of talking to someone without alcohol. However, if that someone is a person that I dont really enjoy talking to, then I need to be drunk LOL.
@Latina girl
Seems like a very weird guy to me, if you already know each other then he has no reason to act shy. Dont think any normal guy would be shy to talk to a girl that he already knows and talks to reguraly otherwise.
Does he speak spanish? maybe that can be a problem if you and your friends tend to talk spanish even when he is with you and he does not understand and being unable to join in on the conversation. Perhaps he does not like your friends, its not that uncommon that people dont like each others friends. You should just ask him why to be honest.
About only wanting to be the mouse, I can see your point. But the problem with the mouse is that a mouse can never chose the cat that are chasing them =P.
@Björn
True about the mouse!
He is kinda weird lol but to be honest that is one of the things that attracts me to him. I’d love to figure him out!
I need to pay more attention if the language is the problem. Although I don’t think it is because he behaves exactly the same on msn and sometimes email. I really think he is playing some game. I think he ignores me so i go all crazy thinking why did he do that to me if we just had a great conversataion the other day? Then I won’t stop thinking about him to the point of finally going to him and ask him what happened. That way I would be going after him (like a cat) and he will be safe from rejection maybe. So that makes me be angry with him, but then he comes and does a nice thing to me and I feel all happy again… weird. If that is his plan, it’s working because now I value the small things he does to me, and if he was nice to me all the time maybe I would take them for granted (not meaning that i like that behavior but being honest in recognizing that it’s working). It’s like he doesn’t let me be angry for a long time. I do things for him, but i have to realize that he does things for me too. They are usually bigger than mine, so i know he cares about me. My conclusion is that I think he knows what he is doing and he is using psychology with me. Like i said, there are more things involved in this soap opera lol. But the ignoring part is what has been bugging me the most.
I can’t thank you enough for your time =)))). By the way, i have deepsoul added to my msn.
Ha en trevlig dag! =P
@Dano
Oh goodness, you have talked with “The cream of the crop of losers” in America! People who don’t have any jobs, or a life in general lol. The majority of the American people would actually make fun of them. That is why comedians make skits out of their behavior.
@Bjorn
LOL! :D
“We drink alot, but that is something we enjoy. But we most certainly are capable of talking to someone without alcohol. However, if that someone is a person that I dont really enjoy talking to, then I need to be drunk LOL”
@Latina girl
I have you on! ;)
@Deepsoul – Oh yes i used to hunt them down and antagonise them into exploding,(which was never hard)it used to cheer up the chatrooms as some of the things they came out with were truly hilarious!
Example:
“we kicked your goddamn brit asses out of here hahahahaha!”
“Ah huh that’s true.Hmm..and in what year did that happen exactly?” (1776 and a bonus point if they got 1812 lol)
“in…it was….umm……….WE KICKED YOUR GODDAMN ASS!”
..and they were by no means the worst lol.Other Americans used to beg me to stop tormenting the guy/girl as it was so embarrassing!
small things amuse..i guess,but it passed the time lol.
Back to Sweden :)
HI i am indian. coming to stockholm by next month. i need a swedish blonde girl.
@ Latina girl
Seems to me that he might be careful and take things slow to make sure things are in line with what you told in how to pick up a latin woman. He might just be concentrating in how to do that and then take it too far.
Cant really blame him for that, I mean how do you know when to try to kiss a girl if things have to start out as if being only friends but at the same time the idea is to only get together as a couple? =). It will be hard to know the difference if you are used to atleast being able to get a few kisses hehe. Anyway, I hope that it will work out in the end =D
@ Rahul
This is not a escort site lol. If you need a swedish blonde girl I recomend that you try to find some site that offers them for a price. But beyond that, you will have to work your charms.
And just a tip since alot of foreigners seems to get this wrong. Just because some hot girls is sun bathing topless at some local beach does NOT mean she is for sale. That is just what girls do in sweden, if you want to look then be sure to wear sun glasses because otherwise it will be too obvious and then they might take offense =P
Sigh…Actually it’s a sad fact that guys like Rahul and guys from Arabic nations etc really do expect to just arrive and have pale skinned blondes throw themselves at him from all angles as some sort of “Welcome” package!
Western women,not just swedes etc,are seen as total promiscuious sluts!and i’m pretty sure that most are very disappointed on arriving and not getting sex three times before reaching passport control!
(If like me they grew up on “Swedish Erotica” porn films…then they’ll be seriously depressed when they arrive! lol)
It’d be nice to see a survey from the hot Swedish girl clubbers who have to deal with these kind of guys on a regular basis.Probably turn up some really funny stories,as well as a deep insight into how middle eastern and Indian men expect western women to react to them.
@Björn
You might be right. He probably doesn’t know how slow should he be. Or it could be too that he only wants friendship with me and I misinterpret some of the things he does thinking that they mean semething else. At least he does not have a girlfriend.
@Dano
I totally agree with you. It is so sad but true. Maybe the reason for that is foreign girls (for ex. from Russia,Ukraine,Scandinavia or UK) come to Antalya, Alanya and sleep with men so easily. Then people think them as sluts. But that is not the case.
“i need a swedish blonde girl”. lol .They do not open their legs and wait for you,Rahul.
I read all posts and thanks to everyone sharing opinions. I can share my experience in Sweden too. I agree that Swedish males are gorgeous, in shape and well-dressed. I also agree that “balls” part. My swedish male friends are aso not good at going to girls and talk. Maybe it is due to their previous experiences with swedish girls. Some of them say swedish girls act stupid in relationships. Some think spanish or latin girls are hotter. I guess it is because latins and mediterraneans express their feelings better and make men feel more like a man.
Anyway, as this is a “meet a blond girl” page, I should add that it is a hard,sweet challenge, you better get ready for that :)
@Rahul
“HI i am indian. coming to stockholm by next month. i need a swedish blonde girl”
First off, I will say your statement is ridiculous and offensive! As India is a large country, and people practice different ways of social interaction, you strongly prove a lack of any skills!
#1. Recognize that women are not objects.
#2. Take some lessons on how to present yourself to others. First impressions are lasting ones! You really didn’t do a good job here. :(
#3. Just learn how to respect others, as you would want to be.
#4. I strongly suggest that you take some courses on western society, as your preconceived notions are just fictional.
#5. If you go to Sweden, or the majority of the world, with your current mentality, you will find it difficult to make any healthy relationships in general.
@Dano
LOL..when you were talking with the Americans, I think you must have been talking with ones who were either still alive from the wars of 1776, and 1812…or just reincarnated ones HAHA. Yes, it is true that there are some people who are rather ethnocentric, but the majority are not. Overall, I can speak for myself, and many who I know, who really like British people and the rest of the world. Though, we, as women, do not tolerate behavior like Rahul’s hehe..sorry Rahul. I can imagine that the other Americans were probably equally harrassing the same people as you, Dano lol. Yes, embarrassing behavior. My family is pretty much military, and there is a long, traditional line of it. However, I can tell you that many of the friends they have made, or married, were from other cultures. :) I guess your conversations with them can be considered foreign policy? HAHA
@Turk
Think I might have mentioned balls – anyway why are so many men so wet? Has feminism emasculated them? Why in particular should the gorg Swedish males be lacking in the balls dept? Though had to say a v drunk (and not gorg at all) Swede did start talking to me in a bar in Stockholm. Unfortunately it was about Man U so I quickly tuned out! I like a bit of cockiness at least it shows some get up and go. I like a challenge and all but…
I am a guy from Argentina, I have been reading all the messages and I am sure that swedish guys suffer about this article as much as if I would be a swedish guy.I love Swedish women.Anton you are right!
Though I think that some things of this article may be true, I do not fall into generalizations.There is one thing true: Youre women are wanted by everybody and that hurts! As a western man I think it is up to you to defend what it is yours as the vikings used to do, that is what men do,just defend what is yours.If you don´t, the beauty of swedish girls will be lost forever!.
I do not want that swedish beauty to be lost! Defend what is yours! It is up to your women to understand that they do no have the worst men in the world.They are handsome amd more civilized than others.If the swedish beauty is lost, than the western society will loose a part of it´s soul for ever!
I love you Sweden!
Hello all :)
Really nice post Sapphire and lets hope more Swedish women will replay on your post. I agree with you on many things but I think Swedish guys are almost the same as others who live in Europe.
I don’t wanna write many things about myself here as this is not a dating website ( or did i miss something? ^^). I’m 29 and i live in Ireland but my origins are polish. I can say guys here in Ireland or in Poland are similar to Swedish. Not all ofcourse as i do belive, not all Swedish guys are the same. I had long time ago a Swedish girl with Norwich origins and she told me that Swedish girls are as more intrested with foregin guys as Swedish guys with foregin women. Swedish people are really nice and friendly (at last i met these^^), but little problem is in relationships. Swedish guys are a little bit cold and they put families / girlfriends on the second place. On first place are career and friends mostly other males. Swedish girls do not need 24 hour attention from guy side but they need respect and understanding from guys side. Also they want their man be not only a lover but also a good friend. Swedish girls also dont like when guys paying most of the time for everything and they want to share bills etc even if you like it or not. What i noticed when i was in beautiful city Göteborg is that many young people very rare spoke to each other. Couples could go for a walk and do long distance without any word! :( Only girls talked to each other same as bouys to other boys. I do not know reason and as much as i love psychology i just can’t answer why is that way. For me blonde Swedish girls are most beautiful on the world but beauty it’s not everything becouse inteligence is very important too. Next year or in two i wanna move to Stockholm and live there. Would love to find inteligent and beautiful blonde swedish girl there but … im divorced and i have no idea if it’s a problem or not ^^ ( dont have kids :p ) . I would like to hear more about swedish girls here what they like and dislike and what is important for them in relationships. Any other good tips are most welcome especialy from Swedish girls side ^^ Also you can write to me on http://www.facebook.com/rafalwielgat . Thank you all for attention and waiting for replays :)
OMG, you’re so wrong about us swedish girls!
If you mean me Sara then write how Swedish girls are :) I just wrote about Swedish girls from Göteborg. Also i found a website where one guy from USA moved to europe and wrote posts about european women and here is post about Swedish Women: http://claritaslux.com/girls/swedish-girls/
I need advice.
In my visit to Sweden I did find that they certainly find different cultures very attractive. I am a naturalized US citizen born in Mexico with my family ancestry mostly from Spain.
Life its not so bad in the US for me, but I still have to work for it if I want to meet someone nice. To maintain the attention of the very pretty girls here you have to have a good interesting personality as looks alone won’t get you very far.
In here (US) I would say that the blonde hair blue eyed guy would be more exotic and possibly more attractive as someone that is olive skinned dark haired dark eyed like me. Just for the fact that its not so common here.
In here lets say a girl that gets a 10 out of 10 (which is a 7 out of 10 by swedish standards……) Have this air of superiority, as in you’re one of many men that has approached her before. She is a commodity and me as the guy I have to prove my value to her from the start.
In sweden, it was just plain ridicoulous, akin to shooting fish in a barrel. Latin guys are not that common, and just by being there at all I had their attention. They would be very happy that im just talking to them and some of them displayed this nervouness shyness around me towards me during initial contact. Most were happy I chose them over the other countless pretty girls there. In there I definitively had an edge over the local men, both as a foreigner, and possibly as someone that by their standards is a bit exotic looking. It took no work to meet new friends over there. I could say whatever I wanted almost and it would work well.
I had such a good experience, I am now learning the language through live mocha, and will make the scandinavian countries a yearly thing for me at least. Ill make sure Im in even better shape too for good measure as well.
@ Latin guy – so,like the Grand banks are prime fishing ground for American fishermen – Scandinavia is about to become your main shagging ground?
Of course you’ll tell all your friends how easy swedish girls are,and we’ll be engulfed with an influx of horny Mexicans looking for a quick jump!
You’ll do better on the beaches here in Skåne,where all the hot chicks spend their summers.Please visit often,and wear lots of that Mexican gold religious stuff and bling.
It won’t really help with the girls,but as a metal detectorist it’ll certainly help me when you lose it all at the beach! :D
Love you of all, beautiful swedish blonde girls.
It is more interesting to know about the perception and practice of dating community in Europe than the blog post on Swedish girls. As an Indian I could say that three is a definite biological divide between men and women. Understanding, supporting, appreciating and respecting each other and their values is the bottom line of success in married life. Legal rights and liberated thoughts do take the backbench and will not contribute to conjugal happiness.
I am a blogger I need material on the subject ‘Dating and girls all over the world’. I would appreciate your real life contributions. Thanks and regards.
@Latina Girl: Regarding your May 6th post on men/women differences and why they are good… Incredibly well put! It couldn’t have been expressed better!!
@Dano “..”ya’ll are faggots n bitches! Gimme yo goddamn address,i’ll come bitchslap you punk ass!” And probably worse.(add copious amounts of really bad spelling.)
I love all that internet macho crap lol. “bring yo punk ass to LA bro and i’ll beat you to a pulp!”…”bring yo punk ass to Detroit and i’ll beat you,shoot you and rape yo dog!”..”
Uh, seriously, Dano, a very limited amount of Americans speak like that… and even then, mostly only in hardcore rap music. Me thinks you’ve been overloading on the entertainment system too long, “homey”. Ha!
@Rahul – Agreeing with DeepSoul that your comment was offensive and objectified women.
On a side note: I do receive these kinds of comments every couple weeks and they come from men in Asian/African nations. Being Asian, it disappoints me that men see women as not only objects, but request that strangers fulfill their demands without question.
If YOU are that type of man, you are not welcome to this.
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@Raphael: Do you have any Swedish female friends? We would love to hear more about you and why you want to move to Sweden. =)
@Rajagopalan: “Legal rights and liberated thoughts do take the backbench and will not contribute to conjugal happiness.” Why do you say that? Because of my open opinions and thoughts I will contribute to a happier relationship with my husband through expressed understandings.
Legal protection gives me the comfort to know that if my husband dies I am not left on the streets to fend for myself (via a life insurance policy) nor is he if I die. A hundred years ago, women had no property inheritance or financial stability guaranteed by law. Now we do. THAT decreases marital instability in relationships.
I’m a 23-year-old swedish girl, live in Stockholm. I would love to meet some americans here in Sweden. Please send me an e-mail! s.usa.nna at hotmail dot com :)
@Loverof–Have you read some of the comments below videos on youtube lately? I’ve been online in chatrooms for years now and blogs…”a very limited amount of Americans speak like that”?? lol,umm wrong!
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good sense of humour? – yes/no (delete as applicable)
Full set of teeth and amazingly white? –
Smoker/non smoker? –
Sexy/shy/easy going/promiscious? –
Virgin? –
Amount of drinks required before willing to have sex? –
Cost of an average date with yourself? –
Expectations of American man applied for?:
Under 300lbs/ intelligent(not applicable)/ non-serial killer/ non white supremacist gun nut/ Humble and non-arrogant (unlikely).
Please print out,fill in and mail to “American men R us”,Kungsgatan 32,33602 Södermalm,Stockholm.
You may prefer the faster route of standing in the middle of Gamla Stan and screaming “I WANNA SCREW A YANK!”.
Yup,it’s another boring sunday! Anyone fancy doing a Brit version of this in response? lol.
@Dano – Brits don’t have expectations for God’s sake.
Haha, it’s quite hilarious to reed all this. I’m a Swedish girl, and goddamnit, stop being to prejudiced! haha.
Sure, I’m blonde and I got blue eyes, but the “info” about what we like and don’t like.. I mean come on, we’re all individuals! We aren’t from Mars, you know :)
And @Dano: Those questions are just so rude, try show some respect instead.
I agree with Celine, a hilarious read. I’m a Swedish guy living in the U.S., married to an American girl. As someone who has also had Swedish girlfriends, I think you’re missing a few points. Although I know this is not a sociological dissertation, in my experience, the Swedish girl you are describing and what she is supposed to prefer, seems based on a lower class, lower education stereotype, or alternatively, a part of the “new conservative” streak you can detect in Sweden.
Of course when you’re very young you’re just interested in partying and having fun, so the interest in foreign men of Swedish girls can probably be explained that way. However, I have known many foreign guys in Sweden at universities, mostly from the Anglo-Saxon world, and almost none have been at all successful in the Swedish love department. A lot of Swedish girls are put off by a way of acting which was part of their grandfathers’ generation. And if an American guy opens his mouth about anything political, he’s probably not going to be successful. I would say that 90% of Swedish girls would not be OK with a guy in the long run who does not share Swedish values (which are quite extreme by international standards). Some Swedish girls are OK with Catholic, American or Muslim values (neither of which respect women very well), but most are not.
Swedish values raise the bar for both men and women. I obviously cook and clean, but I also do renovations and fix computers. Such skills, along with a certain degree of intellectual maturity, seem to have been taken for granted by a lot of Swedish girls that I have associated with.
And another thing, why is it so difficult for foreigners to understand that Swedes may be perceived as “boring” because of language difficulties? To master a language enough to make jokes and be the life of a party usually takes about 10 years of practice. All you foreigners here, can you tell a joke like Robert Gustavsson?
lol, this is funny. People just assume Swedish people are all Blonde/Blue. Is this true??
I am Chinese guy and I think Swedish girls are very pretty :)
But I hate stereotypes.
Totally agree with you.
I have lived for almost one year, here in Sundsvall I see many African men and Swedish girls couples. Languages should not be the problem of dating Swedish girls, since most of the African guy’s Swedish I know are not that good, but your balls count. Most African guys dating Swedish girls, are somewhat confident and feeling good about themselves.
Thats my two points.
@Dacke – Thanks for your comment. What is the “new conservative” in your opinion (i have none on that atm).
Also, when you say “… [if an] American guy opens his mouth about anything political, he’s probably not going to be successful.” Is it because Americans are far more conservative politically? If that is the case, I can see that being a big issue here. So many “issues” in America are non-issues in Sweden that arguing for/against (especially against) gay rights, abortion, universal health care would fare poorly with a Swedish girl.
@Vincent – Confidence and feeling good about yourself: Double win. Shyness and nervousness are acceptable, but be proud of yourself. That’s the key to winning a girl’s heart.
You should have no problems getting a book deal! Your writing is genuine, refreshing and truly entertaining. You haven’t soured my opinion or taste of Swedish women at all. As an American man, I found your site through a referral. I’ll be back for sure. It’s fun. Keep up the good work and tell the guys to stop drinking booze like Swedish fish!
Im Swedish and every time i tell a guy that they say ohh thats why your so hot.
Im Swedish with Brown hair and green eyes naturally.
Dear Sir or Madam :
I have been trying to meet a swedish lady for a date ( as i hae been advice by some of my friend that are hapy with they swedish brides and girlfriend ) but i couldn’t find a swedish dating agency to be registered.
I would be very grateful if you could help me about that.
Thank You
Your Faithfully
Shahin Askari
100% true.
My swedish girlsfrinedn just broke up with me because i lost my job.
Cheers from Portugal – Azores
@Celine – I’m only rude when i open my mouth or as in this case..type something! :)