After reading many comments on the dating in sweden post, the girls seem to never know how to communicate with Swedish guys.
I agree. Talking to a Swede can be like talking to a wall. And it’s not that they don’t want to listen to you, they just don’t know how to respond. Or they enjoyed your story and think nothing needs to be added.
Sometimes, I can be an annoying girl. I keep asking the boy questions; about everything. Sometimes he is quick to answer and tells a story. Other times, he says, “I dunno” and shrugs. And sometimes, even calls me “silly girl” for being so inquisitive.
What I found most interesting in communicating with him was our ‘move-in’ discussion. We had a long talk (okay, a short talk) about what it would be like to move in together. We even discussed what are our fears and expectations. He was very open about it and that he was nervous, etc. A revelation I feel for a Swede to talk. Not necessarily about his feelings but about something importanht. Of course being a Swede, also willing to help out in household duties. Yay! The caveat to the whole conversation: he had some wine before getting deep into the discussion.
A couple lessons to learn about talking to Swedes:
1. Kick them sometimes- Not literally.
2. Be inquisitive- ask open ended questions…anything that has the potential to be Yes/No will end up as one.
3. Don’t tell them any stories for the day- See if there is silence or if after a while, he starts talking.
4. Get some alcohol. Like plants, Swedes must be watered properly with a good distribution of beer and liquor.
You put up a lot just to be with a Swede, don’t you? LOL!
haha, i know!
must be nutty in the head =)
Very handy ;) Thanks!!
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i ll never understand why stockholm guys wear all that gel! as a guy i don’t get it. and they think they look so good.. weird.
Well, I’m planning to run around Europe next year… one of my stops will probably be Stockholm, got a coffee date friend who moved there recently to be with her sweetheart. Will be wary of men with too much gel :D
I think you mean Hair gel.
And its rarely used by “us” except for all the teenagers that think that they look cool and by the middle eastern immigrants.
Hair wax on the other hand is used by the mass, you don’t get that wet and stiff look and the hair stays where it should.
Hm, you haven’t mentioned any difference in terms of what kinds of topics are “private”. An American who is just trying to make conversation or wants to get to know me, a Swede, might ask lots of questions about my family, do I have siblings, pets and whatnot. Sure, I’ll reply with the basics but I’ll be a little uncomfortable about it. I’d feel that person is inquisitive. Thankfully I can easily turn the tables and ask about their family and not have to say another word…
But it would be more interesting to talk about something philosophical, to learn about another person’s view of things. The superficial stuff quickly gets boring IMO.
Then again, maybe it’s the pauses in the conversation that scares you? Maybe your conversation partner is just looking for the right words, careful to put it together properly…mind you, in a second language — however fluent he may seem. Maybe we are more worried about saying something stupid than we are afraid of the silence. And if you pepper someone with questions maybe they just feel they need to rest their ears for a minute…
I stumbled upon this blog by accident.
Being a single male “Swede” this was fun reading. Not just this blog-entry but this whole site has had me (for some reason) mesmerized. lol. I´m gonna stop by here again, rest asure.
If you need a “interview with a Swede” I´m sure I´ll be able to help with questions – (should there be any). Since there seem to be some confusion regarding swedes (or Swedish males to be specific). haha
Oh wow, this is sooo spot on! Especially the part where it feels “like talking to a wall”. Hair pulling moment, indeed!
@The Bitch Goddess- I still have hair pulling to this day.
I don’t like silence, and when he (my swede sweetheart) doesn’t answer me back, after a long letter I sent to him, I feel ignored.
Then at the next day he pops with a cute phrase like “I miss you and need you” or “Im about to have sweet dreams with you this night” lol. But he didn’t answer anything about my letters.
And again I feel in the damn clouds! grrrr.
Funny maybe i’m the only one that has the swede that is soo open and will talk about anything and outright has told he he hopes that i can talk to him about anything that i’m thinking.
i want a swedengirl talk to me my phone number
0945308838