Comments on: To find a Swede, don’t look in Sweden

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 16:05:02 +0000

Let me start by saying that I love reading this blog. I was reading a comment up there ^ about Swedish guys not being able to handle stress very well. So true! I met my ex-Swede while he was an exchange student here. Bottom line, we fell in love (although it took him 6 months to tell me but I was his first serious relationship) and we kinda just got lost in each other. A week before our 8 months he tells me that they denied renewing his visa and he was leaving at the end of the school year because he was graduating.. Well all our plans for the future fell apart. We cried all night in each others arms (yes, him too). That morning was the last time I saw him. He told me he loved me then a day later told me that it was too painful being together when we couldn’t “be together”, told me he didn’t love me anymore, broke up with me, and never talked to me again.. All over text because he couldn’t do it to my face. My friends were even shocked. I still don’t know what to think. -sigh- Now I only want to date Swedes.. Go figure.

By: Lays

Lays — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 01:25:34 +0000

I met him here in Brazil, he made the moves, of course, after some days going around with friends and after talk a lot, things just happened… it wasn’t like a big effort but I still think that he was brave, because after some point you need to be direct and, well, we kinda would spend a lot of days together, whether his moves could work or not so it’s kinda complicated, specially because he is swedish… I think he was shy, not that smiley (we always work on this) and even with this ‘swede ways’ it was really successfull.

By: sarah

sarah — Tue, 20 Mar 2012 08:09:35 +0000

I met my Swede here in the UK! He actually grew up here with Swedish mum, and is more Swedish than he thinks!!! I love him to bits and we are very happily married. Some of the stereotypes on here had me laughing out loud though! He is tall, blond, loves skiing, hard working, really into recycling, likes the outdoors, is quite shy…. and I love him. I am trying to learn Swedish now at evening classes and highly recommend to anyone who loves a Swede :)

By: Estelliane

Estelliane — Sun, 12 Feb 2012 15:55:35 +0000

@JustAGirl

That’s just so sad :-(

I was living a wonderful story with a Swede who told me that he loved me, made it all official to finally turn round to me and stated that he had no more feelings for me.

It just doesn’t make sense to me after the wonderful time we have spent together. I am heartbroken.

However, I still feel drawn to come & live in Stockholm. I have fallen in love with the language and can’t help feeling compelled to move to Sweden for my own sake.

By: JustAGirl

JustAGirl — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 18:07:52 +0000

I met my Swede in England, and after one year we came to Sweden. He did behave so much differently abroad… Much more open, outgoing, relaxed.

Here he would always call himself “my boring Swedish hubby” – actually that’s what he has made of himself, so after some time, I didn’t have another choice than looking at him like that and agree with him…

We divorced after 5 years spent together.

By: Sapphire

Sapphire — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 00:14:02 +0000

@Scee – *Happy dance* Wishing you and your Swede lots of love and happiness.

By: Scee

Scee — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 19:49:44 +0000

I met my Swede on match.com here in the USA. We have lots in common and I have been to Sweden as a teenager so that was a good ice-breaker. He was super reserved at first…first 5 dates and no kiss. I finally had to take charge! We have been together for almost a year, and although it is kinda long distance (1 hour drive), it’s the best relationship I have ever been in. He is the most genuine person, no BS at all, very attentive, and so so sweet! The cultural dating/marriage differences (Americans like to get married…Swedes don’t…Americans expect romance…Swedes are not sure what that word means) are something we are working on, but I am definitely in this for the long haul. It has been a wonderful experience getting to know him, falling in love with him, and he is my best friend for sure. Swedes rock!! (and yes, he is gorgeous!) :-)

By: Latina girl

Latina girl — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 22:58:00 +0000

@Summer:
Those are a lot of questions but I understand you perfectly lol. I hope I can still give some advice, as my swedish friend and I had nothing serious.

Before anything else, I should say that we met in person in my country. He is the one that started sending me emails. Friendly ones. Then we kept in touch through emails, text messages, chatting and occasional phone calls.

I’ll tell you who initiated these communication ways: Emails was 50/50, text messages was mostly me, chatting was practically initiated by me, the occasional phone calls was practically him.

The frequency of these was between 3 and 10 days.

The duaration strictly depended on him and his mood.

It was merely friendship and laughter with occasional serious topics. But I should say that our frindship was based on having fun.

Due to the long distance friendship, we traveled to each other cities a couple of times. First him, then me. Nothing serious, just parties.

There were a couple of moments were it seemed there was something else, but it was a false alarm. We are still friends but we do not have that communication we had at first. I had to realize that there wasn’t anything going on and I backed out when I saw him doing the same.

If I can give you advice, it would be to always be real. They love that. And that includes not changing who you are, your culture, etc. You see, I was always real and down to earth personalitywise, but I let him bring Sweden to my country, so to speak. I saw his shyness, so I took the initiative more than I should have. Now I realize that if he had wanted that from the girl, he would have stayed in Sweden. I probably should have kept my latinness alo t more and let him be the man. That would have been more appealing to him than me adapting to his swedishness lol.

Use this as it may serve your purposes in attracting that Swede!

By: rebaduck

rebaduck — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 15:56:56 +0000

@SH
Thank you! After he accepted my friend request I sent him a message. We inboxed each other for a few hours that day, he expressed interest in talking some the next day. I wrote him on Facebook chat the next day and we talked for several hours. And 3 months later we are still chatting every day, we use Skype now because Facebook chat sucks. He was really reserved at first. He never asked me questions and I was the one who kept the conversation moving. But now, he is totally different.

By: SH

SH — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 09:49:44 +0000

@rebaduck
That’s so cool!! I think I added a couple of French guys based on their pretty looks on facebook a couple of years ago but nothing really came out of it.
How did you start talking to him? did you guys just start messaging?

I’m happy for you! yay:)