Comments on: The Swedish Male Look http://lostinstockholm.com/2008/03/31/the-swedish-male-look/ Musings about Life in Socialist Sweden - Oh Yea, It's Awesome Tue, 15 May 2012 10:19:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: mipaige http://lostinstockholm.com/2008/03/31/the-swedish-male-look/#comment-128581 mipaige Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:59:06 +0000 http://leglobetrotteur.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-128581 I have exchanged the look with a swede in my class. he's given it to me, and i to him. but i'm as shy as they come when I'm attracted to a guy; otherwise, i'm nice, outgoing, extroverted. See the problem? guys im not into automatically assume i am and those who i am into must think i'm a weirdo! I really am in the legendary (as talked here) battle of who can hold back the most! (Assuming he likes me) Couldn't I get lucky once in my life and have him ask me out???? wishful thinking **sigh** I have exchanged the look with a swede in my class. he’s given it to me, and i to him. but i’m as shy as they come when I’m attracted to a guy; otherwise, i’m nice, outgoing, extroverted. See the problem? guys im not into automatically assume i am and those who i am into must think i’m a weirdo! I really am in the legendary (as talked here) battle of who can hold back the most! (Assuming he likes me) Couldn’t I get lucky once in my life and have him ask me out???? wishful thinking **sigh**

]]> By: astre http://lostinstockholm.com/2008/03/31/the-swedish-male-look/#comment-109379 astre Wed, 30 Nov 2011 10:15:36 +0000 http://leglobetrotteur.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-109379 @Traveller: haha maybe when you visit Sweden or meet a Swedish man, you will understand the difference and change your mind! @Traveller: haha maybe when you visit Sweden or meet a Swedish man, you will understand the difference and change your mind!

]]> By: Traveller http://lostinstockholm.com/2008/03/31/the-swedish-male-look/#comment-109181 Traveller Tue, 29 Nov 2011 22:01:46 +0000 http://leglobetrotteur.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-109181 "The look"? Giggling? Waiting for women to make the move? Lawd, have Swedish men got no balls? As much as I'd like to help UNICEF out, I might have to skip this nationality on my dating roster! “The look”? Giggling? Waiting for women to make the move? Lawd, have Swedish men got no balls? As much as I’d like to help UNICEF out, I might have to skip this nationality on my dating roster!

]]> By: astre http://lostinstockholm.com/2008/03/31/the-swedish-male-look/#comment-108627 astre Mon, 28 Nov 2011 09:19:13 +0000 http://leglobetrotteur.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-108627 I read this over a year ago before I arrived in Sweden and I haven't seen it yet. But the two Swedish men who like me (not sure if there're others who do not approach me) just gazed at me quite boldly. They're in their early thirties, maybe they're not so awkward with the chase anymore? not sure. But that's the Swedish look I got. It's not a sneaky look, nor a flirtatious look. In fact quite intense and a little dreamy/wistful and they didn't look away when I caught them looking. I'm usually very shy when guys look at me so i tend to look away first. When I didn't turn away so quickly, they would hold my gaze, whether it's across the room or next to me on the couch. For me, it's quite intense and I've never gotten this before. They tend to take time to deliberate too. The first guy asked me out after seeing me in our 3rd group gathering (though I think he was looking at me since the first time we met), so it was a few weeks before he asked me out. The second guy has been interested (and looking at me) for almost a year (granted earlier on he was going through a rough patch early this year and wasnt rdy for a rs), he only approached me over the weekend. They did not approach me for one night's stand and have been patient and understanding that i need more time to know them better. I read this over a year ago before I arrived in Sweden and I haven’t seen it yet. But the two Swedish men who like me (not sure if there’re others who do not approach me) just gazed at me quite boldly. They’re in their early thirties, maybe they’re not so awkward with the chase anymore? not sure. But that’s the Swedish look I got. It’s not a sneaky look, nor a flirtatious look. In fact quite intense and a little dreamy/wistful and they didn’t look away when I caught them looking. I’m usually very shy when guys look at me so i tend to look away first. When I didn’t turn away so quickly, they would hold my gaze, whether it’s across the room or next to me on the couch. For me, it’s quite intense and I’ve never gotten this before.

They tend to take time to deliberate too.
The first guy asked me out after seeing me in our 3rd group gathering (though I think he was looking at me since the first time we met), so it was a few weeks before he asked me out. The second guy has been interested (and looking at me) for almost a year (granted earlier on he was going through a rough patch early this year and wasnt rdy for a rs), he only approached me over the weekend. They did not approach me for one night’s stand and have been patient and understanding that i need more time to know them better.

]]> By: Random reader http://lostinstockholm.com/2008/03/31/the-swedish-male-look/#comment-107678 Random reader Fri, 25 Nov 2011 20:31:34 +0000 http://leglobetrotteur.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-107678 This is hilarious. I stumbled upon this blog post by chance and as it happens, I have exactly the same experience. Didn't realize it was a general thing with Swedish men, as I've only really gotten to know one, but he definitely gave me "the look". We spent a semester at the same uni and during classes I found that whenever my eyes wandered across the room, they always met his. He seemed to be ALWAYS looking at me, sometimes he looked away immediately when I caught him, sometimes his gaze lingered with a short smile and then looked away. It annoyed me at first, actually, and I was really puzzled over it, but in the end I interpreted it as exactly that: "As if he was battling his politeness with the desire to rip my clothes off." Which, of course, he did in the end ;) Now I'll be searching through this blog to find if there are any posts on the typical behavior of Swedish guys in bed during affairs! Thanks for an interesting blog! This is hilarious. I stumbled upon this blog post by chance and as it happens, I have exactly the same experience. Didn’t realize it was a general thing with Swedish men, as I’ve only really gotten to know one, but he definitely gave me “the look”.

We spent a semester at the same uni and during classes I found that whenever my eyes wandered across the room, they always met his. He seemed to be ALWAYS looking at me, sometimes he looked away immediately when I caught him, sometimes his gaze lingered with a short smile and then looked away. It annoyed me at first, actually, and I was really puzzled over it, but in the end I interpreted it as exactly that: “As if he was battling his politeness with the desire to rip my clothes off.”

Which, of course, he did in the end ;) Now I’ll be searching through this blog to find if there are any posts on the typical behavior of Swedish guys in bed during affairs!

Thanks for an interesting blog!

]]> By: genie http://lostinstockholm.com/2008/03/31/the-swedish-male-look/#comment-58633 genie Thu, 09 Jun 2011 07:24:08 +0000 http://leglobetrotteur.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-58633 isabelle - are you any closer to a fika with your guy? isabelle – are you any closer to a fika with your guy?

]]> By: ? ???? | Sunshine in Umeå http://lostinstockholm.com/2008/03/31/the-swedish-male-look/#comment-53922 ? ???? | Sunshine in Umeå Thu, 12 May 2011 21:00:47 +0000 http://leglobetrotteur.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-53922 [...] that I may not see him for dinner group on Saturday.  I found myself searching his face for “the Swedish male look” today, then brushed it away because it is no longer [...] [...] that I may not see him for dinner group on Saturday.  I found myself searching his face for “the Swedish male look” today, then brushed it away because it is no longer [...]

]]> By: Joakim http://lostinstockholm.com/2008/03/31/the-swedish-male-look/#comment-51682 Joakim Thu, 28 Apr 2011 21:08:24 +0000 http://leglobetrotteur.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-51682 Hi, good post, very true, but if you're talking about the Swedish name, it's Per Hi, good post, very true, but if you’re talking about the Swedish name, it’s Per

]]> By: Isabelle http://lostinstockholm.com/2008/03/31/the-swedish-male-look/#comment-51078 Isabelle Sun, 24 Apr 2011 15:00:34 +0000 http://leglobetrotteur.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-51078 Thanks for your blog posts, they really help me decipher the behavior of a Swedish colleague of mine who's been playing hot and cold with me for a while now. He's given me the look quite a few times, and it's always very troubling. But when I attempt a move, he tells he wants a purely business relationship with me (he's a colleague), that he's worthless and that I shouldn't even spend 5 minutes thinking about him. And when I try to move on, he comes back asking me not to give up on him, acting very nice and caring... He's "slightly" conflicted, I guess :) Is that common in Swedish men? It's like he needs a lot of time to deliberate and think about everything... Thanks for your blog posts, they really help me decipher the behavior of a Swedish colleague of mine who’s been playing hot and cold with me for a while now. He’s given me the look quite a few times, and it’s always very troubling. But when I attempt a move, he tells he wants a purely business relationship with me (he’s a colleague), that he’s worthless and that I shouldn’t even spend 5 minutes thinking about him. And when I try to move on, he comes back asking me not to give up on him, acting very nice and caring… He’s “slightly” conflicted, I guess :) Is that common in Swedish men? It’s like he needs a lot of time to deliberate and think about everything…

]]> By: John http://lostinstockholm.com/2008/03/31/the-swedish-male-look/#comment-46642 John Sun, 13 Mar 2011 00:47:34 +0000 http://leglobetrotteur.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-46642 btw swedish females likes men who are more aggressive and not shy, but i guess most women are this way. there's a few "girlfriend material" who likes shy and kind guys but from my experience which is going out on parties/pubs 2-3 times a week and talking to my buddies is that girls likes tough guys who 'ignores' them, since it gives the guys a interesting "vibe". worked for me at least... :P btw swedish females likes men who are more aggressive and not shy, but i guess most women are this way. there’s a few “girlfriend material” who likes shy and kind guys but from my experience which is going out on parties/pubs 2-3 times a week and talking to my buddies is that girls likes tough guys who ‘ignores’ them, since it gives the guys a interesting “vibe”.

worked for me at least… :P

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